We all long to be loved. And we are. Truly, madly, deeply by the one who designed the universe and knew us before we were born. Jeremiah 1:5
What would happen if were to use God's commands about love to measure our relationships?
In our culture, love is romanticized at best, twisted at worst. We see movie after movie, book after book, portraying love as lust with violence against women meshed into one slick package.
Maybe we should be asking ourselves what we are being sold? Maybe we should be asking ourselves why it became normal to lower our standards?
If someone really cares about you, wouldn’t they want what is best for you?
Wouldn’t they challenge themselves daily to be the best they can be? Wouldn’t they cherish you and uphold your faith all while leaving your virtue intact?
Love is not shallow. It is not dependent on feelings that pass, it’s not dependent on how we look, it is a living breathing choice we make each day.
Real love is doing the messy, dirty, nasty things for someone for no reward when no one is looking. Love means putting another’s needs ahead of your own. It means sacrificing your wants which is the opposite of what the world sells.
When someone loves you, they know you. They know your flaws, your faults, and they choose to overlook them. They are there when you are at rock bottom, and they stay.
If we are striving for perfection and not authenticity, how can we ever experience deep intimacy?
How can we know we are loved for who we are and not just the image we project?
Christ knows our flaws, and still loves us unconditionally. I believe this is the standard we should adopt. If someone truly loves you, they won’t ask you to compromise, they won’t cajole, or ridicule. They won’t force, or manipulate. That is not loving. That is controlling.
When you are at your lowest, when you can’t pretend to be perfect any longer, that’s when they will show you who they are through their actions.
If love is patient and love is kind, then doesn’t that mean he should wait, and be kind to you?
Aren’t we worth the wait? Aren’t we deserving of kindness?
I say yes, more importantly, God says yes.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."